"Keep your chin up," you hear from friends, family and well-intentioned people when Life starts dealing an unfavorable hand. While you suffer inside with tremendous worry, fear and pain, a solution or light at the end of the tunnel may seem nowhere in sight. 'It's easy for them to say,' you think. They've not walked a mile in your shoes.
Or, those same people may remind you that you don't have it so bad...'Take a look at so-and-so, they have it worse off than you!' Again, this is well-meaning intention designed to, perhaps, help you put things in perspective. Yet, you still suffer. You're still walking around in the same shoes. Each of our sufferings may be relative, but they are ours and cause just as much grief - fear, worry and pain are universal.
How can you possibly keep your chin up and feel positive when you've lost your job, your home is in foreclosure, a loved one is dying, you've been diagnosed with something awful or anything else that is causing you emotional pain and mental distress? While what follows may not magically make things perfect, it will, most definitely, help put you in a positive state so that you are better able to deal with and possibly remedy the suffering:
Gratitude.
Not necessarily gratitude towards your suffering, but gratitude towards all the happy and positive things in your present and past. Try to take some time out each day - even just 5 or 10 minutes - to sit quietly in a state of gratitude towards any person, thing or event in which you were truly grateful. Re-experience the emotional gratitude, not just the mental thought. If you rewind through time, you will be able to come up with a thousand different things from a close parking space when you really needed it to a person who did something wonderful for you to a miracle taking place in your life. It can be as simple as a moment sharing an ice cream cone with your child. See the moment, remember how it felt, remember the taste of the ice cream, remember how happy your child was...and express gratitude from your heart for being able to experience that moment.
In the face of a painful life situation, you can try to attempt to 'stay positive' or 'think happy thoughts.' Yet, this is a mental trick of the mind because, deep down, you know things are rotten. Emotionally, the stuff is still there and simply trying to Be Positive (in your head) will not create a real and lasting change within you.
Gratitude, however, is on a far higher plane than worry, fear and emotional pain. It is in a different dimension that your mind cannot possibly understand. Your heart - or your emotional center - understands it, though. By retraining your heart or reintroducing it to that higher plane through the practice of gratitude, feeling positive becomes real and not a trick of the mind. Keeping your chin up becomes effortless.
From there, because you will be able to relate from that higher state, by mind or through miracle, you will see your life situation begin to change in a positive way and quite possibly in ways never imagined.
Maggie Ross works undercover as a suburban soccer mom who drives a late model foreign car and attends PTA meetings. Her "cover" is so well manufactured that no one suspects she spent several years under the tutelage of Vedic shamans, Wayne Dyer's personal guru and a little, sweet Mambo who taught her the secrets of The Secret (long before it became popular) as well as other really cool esoteric stuff about manifestation. She shares this knowledge in her enlightening articles and on http://prosperityhereandnow.com hidden from friends and family who do not suspect her secret life. They all just think she's really lucky ;)
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